I used to be fat. Actually I believed my whole life I was fat. I wasn’t always fat during that time, but in 2000 I fulfilled my belief and found I was 100 pounds over weight. My life in a nutshell was miserable. I would not go places or do things because I was fat, I felt like everyone judged me because I was fat, everything I would wear would remind me I was fat and life pretty much sucked. Even during the times I “believed” I was fat (and actually wasn’t – I have pictures to prove it), I was on a perpetual diet. I was either depriving myself or binging. Neither of those is a theme park to exist in. The regret from the binging brought on the deprivation of diets and injections and unhappiness, which led to another ride on the spinning tea cup of binging.
What has this got to do with money you ask? The misery I was in was the same misery my clients who wanted more money would share. They won’t enjoy events in their lives because it costs too much, they feel like if anyone knew their financial situation they would think less of them, they’re wearing last year’s frocks and are reminded of their financial woes every time they get dressed. They are always thinking about money, depriving themselves of it or spending where they shouldn’t.
In 2000 I realized that my weight issue was a mental “thang” and not a physical “thang”. Once I stopped believing I was “fat” learning how to rev up my metabolism and eat those things that were fun and yet supported my body in a healthy way was easy.Not health foods (yuck), but life giving, nourishing my soul mental shifts supported me in a new and healthy way.
As these concepts began to take hold in my life, I also realized that the same principles applied to my money clients. I was approaching it all wrong with them as well. I could give them all the tools of how to become wealthy, but they still believed something else. So I started coaching them on how to think wealthy. I was using the same concepts as I had finally incorporated in my fatness. It had been staring me in the face the whole time, I just wasn’t marrying being fat with money magnetism.
Cutting back leads to deprivation.
Just like counting calories and cutting back your food intake will help you lose a little weight, the biggest shift comes when shift your thinking from being “fat” to “being fit”. You can then rev up your metabolism by moving and overhauling how you think about your weight in the first place. The same thing applies to money. Sure you can pinch a few pennies here and there, work a little overtime, but you will always still be counting calories or pennies. When you transform your thinking from a “poor person” or “I’ll never be rich”, to “I deserve wealth and I know how to do it”, you rev up your money mojo. There are lots of way to make money, but if you don’t learn how to “receive” it consistently, you will always believe yourself to be “poor”, “just getting by”, “doing okay” or “kinda wealthy”.
Massive confidence trumps fear.
Just as I had the belief that I was “fat” even though I was not, so too so many of my clients are living a belief of “poor”. They are in fear of losing everything. They are afraid the market will crash, they will lose their job, worried about retirement, afaid the economy will finally implode, fearful an emergency will devastate them financially and the fear is consuming. When the fear runs you, the only solution is “massive confidence”. You can be a poor person with money because of the way you think. When you realize the rules of the money game your confidence begins to accelerate. True wealth is knowing you can create money no matter what happens. If you were to lose everything could you re-create it tomorrow? This is where confidence becomes your master and not your slave. When it comes to the creating money, that part is simple. It is your confidence that you can do it that is always the issue. Learning wealth principles and creating more confidence will always bring more money mojo.
Build Money Muscles
Just as in weight loss, the best way to rev up your metabolism is through muscle strength. Money muscle is the consistency of your thoughts. The reason the weight loss industry is a billion dollar business is because people are looking for a magic pill. The magic pill is always within you. I’m not a great fan of the word discipline because it conjures up pain and misery. The fact is discipline is simply choosing a new set of beliefs which will support you. A money muscle is strengthened by exercising it. A physical muscle is created by stretching, lengthening and then breaking down the old muscle to allow a new one to be formed. Changing your old money thoughts and patterns may seem like work or you can “reframe” it and know that you are creating a lean, mean money mojo machine. Should you ever find yourself without money you know how to recreate it.
The inner work of weight loss or money magnetism is the cornerstone. You can be a fat skinny person or a poor rich person. It’s all in how you see yourself.
You can begin your metamorphosis right now by changing how you mentally, physically and spiritually feel about money.
Money Mantra for the Day: I am confident I will be in control of my wealth for the rest of my life.