Are You Settling for . . . .

nose glassDo you find yourself playing “small” and feeling like the kid whose nose is pressed up against the window watching everyone else create the life of their dreams?  Do you justify your life as adequate, sensible, good enough, all the while knowing you have more greatness in you than you let the world see?

I can’t tell you (and often don’t) how much I have felt and done this very same thing. I thought I knew the “how” of creating an extraordinary life that I saw others living.  You know the lives I’m talking about, writing a bestselling novel after spending months eating, praying and loving, speaking to auditoriums of 1,000’s, sitting next to Oprah as the book sales tick up like an HSN viewing.  Feel free to insert your own dream life here.

It was only after I connected my dream or should I say day-dream, with Sacred Action, that the flood gates of good began to open.  Was it hard?  Was it scary?  Was it exhilarating?  Was it exhausting?  Yes! Yes! Yes! Was it one continuous trajectory upward?  Not even close.  A roller coaster graph of Thailand’s garlic sales would better demonstrate my journey.

So what exactly is Sacred Action?  It is ANY action you take with Reverence.  I recently wrote about Reverence as part of a 64 Day Season for Peace many of you participated in. Everyday Reverence  You don’t just practice Reverence on the weekends.

The intention and truth behind your actions is as essential as breathing is to your life.   Anne Lamott in her book Bird by Bird, asks her Creative Writing students if they want to be “published” or writers.  The first time I read this passage; I had to answer the question honestly for myself and was shocked and awed by my own answer.  Truth:  I have always wanted to be “published”.  Secretly I believed that trumpets would blare, reviewers would proclaim my works, Oprah would have me sitting next to her and the royalties would flow endlessly.   The problem was my intentions were motivated by being published while I was afraid to sit down and practice writing just because I loved writing.  Being published came from my ego, writing comes from my soul.

As I look back over my life and the lives of those I have coached, I know one thing.  If you are ONLY waiting wishing, hoping and praying for your dream life, it will always remain in your wishes, hopes and prayers.  You must step into your life with the pure intention of joy and serving.  Taking the first step can be daunting when you can’t see the top of the staircase.

Another form of Sacred Action is exampled by J. R. Martinez, a US Army Veteran who suffered severe burns to 34% of his body after being trapped inside a Humvee while deployed in Iraq.  He has turned what could have been a debilitating tragedy into a thriving life as an actor, motivational speaker, and best-selling author.  In a recent interview when asked what one thing could he say to our military and country about vets returning from the horrors of war?  His simply yet profound answer was to take the stigma out of “talking about” their experience.  Part of his own recovery has been to share about his experience truthfully and frequently.

These two simple Sacred Actions will open your life to potential and possibility beyond anything you could ever dream of.

1)      Reverence in your actions because of your love and passion, and

2)      Sharing/talking about what is holding you back in your life honestly and vulnerably.

As I look back on my own journey, I can see each time I did not practice these actions, fear and struggle have been the result.  When I did, ease and grace were the outcome.

So the question still remains, are you playing small?  If you want to play big, shine in your own way, and live the life of your destiny, you have to take that first step.  And if not now, when?  One of my mentors once said to me, in five years will you still be where you are right now?  That was 14 years ago and the dream is still unfolding in magical ways.  My heartfelt desire is that you experience the dream for yourself.staircase3

As we wrap up the 64 Days of Peace, Compassion and Abundance, I feel called more than ever to support you in taking the first step toward unwrapping your dreams beginning now!  I’m now offering ridiculously affordable group coaching ($45 per month) so you can dip your toe in and experience what it feels like to be creating your big dream.  Through April 15,

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Do You Inspire Others – 64 Days Leadership

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” – John Quincy Adams

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The thought for today is LEADERSHIP.  You are ALWAYS leading.  You are either leading yourself through your thoughts and actions, leading a family through parenting, a charitable organization through volunteer work or as a manager/supervisor in a corporate environment.  Make no mistake you are always leading in one way or another.  So are you leading by cultivating engagement and vulnerability or through shame and fear?

As you lead your own path or model a path for others, it is essential to take stock of your internal dialogue.  Do criticize yourself for not performing perfectly?  Do you bullying yourself for making mistakes or being fearful?  Do you belittle yourself because of things you did not accomplish?

Leadership, as in all the qualities shared in the past few weeks, begins with you.  Having language awareness, shining light on the dark corners and engaging with your own inner leader.

Today practice compassionate leadership with yourself by expressing, integrity, courage , wisdom and vision that is meant for the highest good of all concerned.  Compassionate leadership will change the world!

Think About It

If you are a “born leader”, what example are your sharing?

Take Action

Choose a place in your life where you can set an example of integrity, courage or wisdom.  Do it and write down the results.

Major Do:  Be willing to dare greatly and facilitate honest conversation with yourself and others.

Major Don’t:  Don’t be afraid to engage in honest feedback.

Words to Live by:

A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves. —Lao Tzo

 

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In Abundance,


Debbie

 

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Everyday Reverence – 64 Days

Always and in everything, let there be reverence.” – Confucious
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The thought for today is REVERENCE.  The art and practice of reverence is the intentional and mindful observance of honoring self, others, nature, and source with your unique and perfect expression of gratitude, reciprocity and devotion.  The term Ahimsa is inspired by the premise that all living beings have the spark of the divine spiritual energy, to hurt another being is to hurt oneself.

Reverence for all life is fundamental to Ahimsa because all is sacred.  How can you willingly do harm to that for which you have reverence. 

Reverence nurtures more joy, contentment, and meaning, cultivates gratitude, inspires passionate creativity, kindles deeper connections, sustains greater intimacy, will change your life, our world, and can heal the Earth.

Today open yourself up to a feeling of reverence for all forms of life, especially each and every person you meet during the day.   Take a walk outside and experience the beauty that surrounds you as YOU BE with the sky, the plants and animals, as well as your brothers and sisters.

Think About It

Did you ever see something so beautiful it took your breath way?

Take Action

Write a letter to someone who is not yet born.  What wisdom would you share?  What do you hope for their life?

Major Do:  Reverently connect with your inner beauty and preciousness, so you can make deep, meaningful and lasting impact on yourself and the world.

Major Don’t:  Stop putting someone else’s agenda ahead of your own.  Reverently express who you are.

Words to Live by:

My day is done, and I am like a boat drawn on the beach, listening to the dance-music of the tide in the evening.” ? Rabindranath Tagoblue moon

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In Abundance,


Debbie

 

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Be Vulnerable – You’ll Find Yourself – Vulnerability 64 Days

 To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.” ― Criss Jami
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The thought for today is VULNERABILITY.   Vulnerability has all too long been perceived as a weakness or soft spot open to attack.  The truth is we cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known.

Instead of seeing imperfections as being unworthy of love and belonging, see them as part of learning and growing.  Instead of trying to escape from them, face them with couage, compassion and love.  In this sense, every difficult situation is a precious opportunity for learning and growing yourself.

When you humbly and vulnerably acknowledge your whole self and reflect on the gifts of every part of yourself, it frees you from the need to be defensive.   Being free from defending your position creates an opportunity for peace and compassion not only for yourself but for the entire planet.  This video is a must see on Vulnerability.

Today, freely acknowledge at least one of your imperfections and embrace it as fully as a reminder we are all in this together.    Acknowledge that You DO make a difference.

Think About It

Can you feel exposed and completely loved and accepted at the same time?

Take Action

Connect with someone in your life or family and allow them to see you, hear you and value you.

Major Do:  Cultivate love for yourself by allowing yourself to be deeply seen and known.

Major Don’t:  Stop hiding who you truly are!

Words to Live by:

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.” – Brené Brown

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In Abundance,



Debbie

 

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Do You Have the Courage to Let Go of Certainty? – Creativity 64 Days

Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.” – Erich Fromm

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The thought for today is CREATIVITY.  The human soul’s natural desire is to create.  The best thing you can do for your soul is to express this natural desire to create. Are you one of the great many who say “I’m not very creative?”  Your life is your creative expression.  You create every day with your thoughts and emotions.

When was the last time you had a conscious creativity moment?  Are you bound up in comparison and conformity?   It is risky to be vulnerable and imperfect engaging in outward creative endeavors.  The payoff however is huge!  You were born to be creative.  So get creative, cook, draw, doodle, paint, scrapbook, take pictures, collage, knit, rebuild an engine, sculpt, dance, decorate, act, sing – it doesn’t matter.

Creativity allows something unpredictable and joyous to express through you.

Buffalo State offers a Master’s Degree in Creativity that’s how important it is!  See what one of the students created.  Creativity

Today Identify at least five ways in which you express your creativity joyously.  Allow something unpredictable and joyous to be expressed through you.

Think About It

How does your personal “inner critic” block your creative process?

Take Action

Carve out time this week to cultivate your creativity.  Make it a priority instead of a luxury.  Take a class, join a group of like-spirited people, do something that scares you or you have dreamt of trying.

Major Do:  Let go of certainty and dive into your unique expression.

Major Don’t:  Stop saying things like “best or worst”, “ahead or behind”, you are uniquely original and therefore not comparable to anyone or anything else.

Words to Live by:

“Why should we use all our creative power? . . . Because there is nothing that makes people so generous, joyful, lively, bold and compassionate, so indifferent to fighting and the accumulation of objects and money.”  -Brenda Ueland

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Find Your Balance – Groundedness 64 Days

The foot feels the foot when it feels the ground.” ~ Buddha 

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The thought for today is GROUNDEDNESS.  Gandhi said “To forget how to dig the earth and tend the soil is to forget ourselves.”  Black Elk reminds us “Some little root of the sacred tree still lives.  Nourish it, that it may leaf and bloom and fill with singing birds.”

Notice nature and its groundedness.   The trees don’t just throw the leaves in the trash when they are no longer necessary.  They release them gracefully when it is time, and they fall to the earth to compost and fertilize the tree and the forest.  It’s a slow humble process of letting go of what’s no longer serving them and that returns to the earth to be used anew. Nothing in nature is waste.

When you notice something that is no longer serving you – old thoughts, old patterns of speaking or acting, you tend to judge yourself for it, use it to put yourself down and diminish yourself.   The invitation to awareness is to retire these old patterns and defenses humbly and honorably, without judgment for the past.  Acknowledge the fact that the pattern was useful at one point in time.

This is how you can feel grounded, like a tree planted in the earth.  Stand up straight and close your eyes.  Imagine your body is a tree.  Send down roots into the soil, feel the sun shining from above.  Feel your branches and leaves blowing in the wind.  When you feel grounded, you feel secure in your environment; and when you feel secure, you are more likely to respond to a situation in a compassionate, peaceful way.  Being grounded helps you contribute to peace and to a culture of abundant compassion.

Today be here now, in this moment.  Be in the present without any reference to the past.  The future is manifested in the now.  Be centered and grounded within your beingness, centered in your heart.

 Think About It

Like a tree sheds it leaves, what is something in your life can you let go of gracefully?

Take Action

Take a deep breath and exhale with a sigh releasing anything that blocks you from being here right now.

Major Do:  Open up an emotionally clutter-free space in your mind and allow yourself to feel and think and dream and question.

Major Don’t:  Stop thinking stillness is about focusing on nothingness, it’s about creating a clearing.  See Major Do above.

Words to Live by:

The (one) who sat on the ground in (their) tipi meditating on life and its meaning, accepting the kinship of all creatures and acknowledging unity with the universe of things was infusing into (their) being the true essence of civilization – Chief Luther Standing bear

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In Abundance,


Debbie

 

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Where is Your Sanctuary? – 64 Days Contemplation

““Muddy water, let stand, becomes clear.”? Laozi

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The thought for today is CONTEMPLATION.  From the Latin “to observe the sacred space”.  What a beautiful concept.  You can observe any and all areas of your life from a sacred space.  Whether it is the simple stillness of meditation, the creativity of artistic expression, the relational connection with others, activism of your favorite cause, moving through walking or dancing or engaging in a ritual of retreat or Sunday morning church.

 

You can bring contemplation into EVERY area of your life!  The mere act of being contemplative imbues you with a sense of peace, compassion for yourself and the world.  A perfect way to begin your practice of contemplation is by creating your own Tree of Contemplative Practices.  For a template visit Contemplative Mind.  

“The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival.”  -Aristotle 

Today take at least three minutes to relax, breathe and let your mind be fed by what is good and beautiful.  The great sacred texts tell us ‘your thoughts shape your reality.  Write down your thoughts and share them with others.

Think About It

How can contemplation help you to choose peace, compassion and abundance the next time feel in a conflict?

Take Action

Practice contemplation by sitting still and counting your out-breaths.  When you notice a thought, gentle label it “thinking” and return to counting your out-breaths.  Today try this for several minutes or longer to challenge yourself.

Major Do:  Open up an emotionally clutter-free space in your mind and allow yourself to feel and think and dream and question.

Major Don’t:  Stop thinking stillness is about focusing on nothingness, it’s about creating a clearing.  See Major Do above.

Words to Live by:

The (one) who sat on the ground in (their) tipi meditating on life and its meaning, accepting the kinship of all creatures and acknowledging unity with the universe of things was infusing into (their) being the true essence of civilization – Chief Luther Standing Bear

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Step into the Mystery – Faith 64 Days

Faith includes noticing the mess, the emptiness and discomfort, and letting it be there until some light returns.”- Anne Lamott

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The thought for today is FAITH.  Faith is a place of mystery, where we find courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty.

As humans we love closure, resolution and clarity while at the same time believing we are people of “faith”!  Faith is essential when you decide to live a life of peace, compassion and abundance.  Leaping in faith rather than being assured your risk of being vulnerable and getting hurt, requires believing without seeing.

The opposite of faith is not doubt, but certainty. Certainty is missing the point entirely.  As you learned with intuition it is living in the mystery of not knowing.  When Cesar Chavez was organizing farm works in California, he challenged them to say, “Si, se puede” – yes, it is possible – when they didn’t know how they would overcome obstacles.  Lizzie Velasquez’s incredible faith in herself after a video posted on You Tube called her the ugliest woman in the world.  Ted Talk 

Today say “yes, it is possible” even if you don’t know how your goal will be realized.  SayYes, it is possible,” to every obstacle you meet.  Practice having faith and say, “it is possible,” until you find a way“.  Write down three things you are having a challenge with and with each one write “It is possible for me to overcome this obstacle and be successful.”

Think About It

In what ways do you have faith in yourself?

Take Action

Write a 2-3 paragraphs about a time in your life when your life when your faith made a positive difference

Major Do:  When you feel anxiety and fear from “not knowing”, get quiet and still and listen to our inner voice.

Major Don’t:  Stop thinking the world has to change before you can be safe or happy.  You create your own safety through your thoughts and energy flow

Words to live by

Faith is permanent, happiness and unhappiness are fleeting things – Mohandas K. Gandhi

 

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Walk Into Your Dreams – 64 Days Dreaming

Do all you can to make your dreams come true” – Joel Osteen

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The thought for today is DREAMING.  The sad truth is most people are not living their dreams, their heart, their inner light.  There is no greater form of violence against yourself than allowing your fears to become murderous stalkers plotting to kill your Big as the Blue Sky Dreams.  Just as cruel is, until you start living your calling, you are robbing the world of your gift!!!!!!

Imagine showing up at a party with the most beautifully wrapped gift, all the while clutching it under your arms, refusing to relinquish its When you squander your gift it brings distress to your life.  You struggle and the whole world struggles as a result.  This leads to feelings of emptiness, frustration, resentment, disappointment, fear and even grief.

It is time to listen to your heart and inner light and acknowledge your dream.  Three important steps to living into your dream:

Set aside the time to listen to your inner voice.

Declare you are what you’re waiting to be.
Believe in your dream before you see it.
Just do it!

Today take ownership of your own dream for peace, compassion and abundance.  Write it down and act on at least one thing to honor your dream today.

Think About It

What is on your “suppose to” list?  Who says?  Why?

Take Action

What is one thing you can do every day to honor your dream. Do it!

Major Do:  Cultivate self-acceptance, belonging and authenticity.

Major Don’t:  Stop comparing yourself to someone else.

Words to Live by:  We need men (and women) who can dream of things that never were, and ask why not. -George Bernard Shaw

 


64 Days – Healing

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” - Rumi

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The thought for today is HEALING.   Healing simply means “to make whole”.  It is your nature to bring yourself whole after an accident, an illness, or a major life event.  You can lose your sense of wholeness from anything life event, including experiencing loss to the trauma of working in a soul-sucking job.  It’s how you practice self-compassion that allows you to heal your wounds.

We all have had painful life experiences.  It’s the holding on to the experience for a very long time that inflicts more pain.  A mantram is a wonderful way to resolve conflict we hold in our mind and one of the best times to repeat the mantram is while falling asleep at night.  Tuck yourself in, close your eyes, and start repeating your mantram.  Between the last waking moment and the first sleeping moment, there is an opening into deepest consciousness.  You can send your mantram in through that opening, repeating itself in your sleep, healing old wounds and restoring your peace of mind.

Today reflect on a painful incident in your life and find the “gift” it has brought you or is now giving you.   Consciously share this gift with others.  Here are some keys to healing yourself.  Zen Healing

Think About It

What can get in the way of your healing?

Take Action

Choose a recent painful experience or event.  Write your answers to these questions:  How did it affect you?  Who else was affected?  What needs to happen to set things right?

Major Do:  Find new ways to “believe” you can heal anything in your life.

Major Don’t:  Stop joining bandwagons of doubt that you aren’t whole just the way your are.