Debbie Dobbins

Sipping my first cup of morning coffee, chomping down a sugary snack of Channel 5’s cast They feel like your friends in the living room, the sugar rush I know they will always deliver, came through big time.

A rather shocking study via something called Voucher Cloud, found that, among 2,712 men and women age 18-30 the NO.1 BREAKING UP METHOD was … via text message.  This is how the results fell into place.

25%  Text

20%  Social Media

18% Face to Face

15 Phone Call

11 Email

eeegjgjgjjjjhhhhh is it just me, or is that all … messed up?

“I know we live in a warped “future is now” era in which nobody bothers to open their mouths to emit actual sounds at each other — we prefer to do it all, EVERYTHING, via little screens. But still! We’re talking about breakups here — love and war and the soul-pummeling death of real-world entanglements!I wonder sometimes if we have so disconnected from others through technology we have replaced vulnerability and intimacy with a virtual world of our design. “

“Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”

― Mahatma Gandhi

The thought for today is HARMONY.  The basis of the word is to be of one heart.  It is difficult to be of one heart when you are blaming another for anything.  This includes gossip, criticizing, scolding, rebuking, condemning yourself or anyone else.  As Brene Brown says “if blame is driving, shame is riding shotgun”.  Blame in whatever form, has it roots in anger, hurt, grief, pain and shame.

It is only when you connect from your heart to another’s heart that harmony flourishes.  When you recognize the common nature that you have with every other person you are able to honor this nature in yourself and those around you.  Being in harmony with your surroundings, people, places and things will allow peace to flourish.  When you have a vision for your life and for humanity you strive for “the greatest good for the greatest number of people.”

Choosing NOT to engage in any form of blame today contributes to harmony.  Choosing to see the good in others rather than finding fault leads to peaceful relationships.  Look for the good in yourself and in others rather than finding fault. By making these choices, you are contributing to a culture of peace, compassion and abundance.

Today choose to see the good in others instead of finding fault. Spend the entire day without criticizing anything or anyone; if you are tempted to criticize, write down the criticism rather than speaking it, then later discover where the criticism is coming from within you.

Think About It

How do you know when things are in harmony?

 Take Action

Decide on three areas of your life that could be more harmonious.  What steps are you willing to take to be an agent of more harmonious interactions in those areas.

Major Do:  Ask yourself constantly, “How am I seeing the commonality” in others.

Major Don’t:

Don’t justify your feelings with a “I’m right and you’re wrong”.  This plugs up the flow of higher energies to all other areas of your life.

Words to Live by:

 Harmony is a beautiful balance between mind, body and soul measured in tender peaceful moments. – Melanie Koulouris

I was a little taken aback by my client’s vivid description of the changes she has experienced in the past few weeks. “Working together has been like Space Mountain”, she excitedly shared as our session came to a close.   Explain more I said.

“Well you know how the ride is dark at first, you go through a dark tunnel, then you start to lift into the mountain, there’s a disorienting spinning sensation, slowly building as you lift, then the ride begins and it’s fast.  My life has changed so quickly it’s like Space Mountain”.

I had never heard it put quite like that before, and yet it seems to be the truth of how you can experience anything your heart desires if only you are willing to buy a ticket for the ride.

All too often I hear change is difficult, takes time and can’t happen for me.  The truth is all change can occur in a Holy Instant or take as long as you believe it needs to.  Simply opening to the possibility that change can be quick and painless are the building blocks to creating the experience.

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” ― Napoleon Hill

The thought for today is BELIEVING.  Believing has gotten a bad rap during especially in the positive thinking being too Pollyannaish or Kumbayahish, yet Medical Research continuously supports its huge impact on our lives.  The more deeply you believe the more completely your results.  Believe your Fixed Mindset and the voice says you can’t do it.  Listen to your Growth Mindset and it says “I can’t do it YET!”  Great You Tube Video on the Power of Belief. 

Today believe that you have all the resources to move your life in the direction of abundance, peace and joy.  Be aware of the simple, abundant, peaceful, joyful things you receive.

Desire to Improve

Embrace challenges

Persist in the face of set backs

Discover yourself

Think About It

What are some limiting or empowering beliefs you have about yourself?

Take Action

List the beliefs you carry that impact your life.  Did you learn them from your family, friends, culture or religion?

Major Do:  Believe you can have it all!

Major Don’t:  Don’t ever say you can’t.

After signing up for a 30 Day Blog Challenge, I find myself after the third day two days behind.  Instead of shaming myself into compliance, I wondered if there was a great learning in this experience.  Of course there is!

With the back drop of the Oscars as my canvas, it struck me there is this overall need to review and judge how we dress, speak, behave, make mistakes and paint the world with sweeping assessments of our performance.  Blogging is like that for me.  Judging the content, the look, the impact.   There is this place of vulnerability that is uncomfortable as I squirm in my chair the whole time.

There is also this “practice what you preach” voice in the back of my head.  My teachings on wealth and abundance always have their roots in worthiness. Building worthiness is a daily practice which begins with courage.

The root of the word courage is cor – the Latin word for heart.  Originally Courage meant “to speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart”.  Over time the word has become synonymous with being heroic.

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”  – Brene Brown

Letting go of what other people think is a huge act of courage.  Courage is letting go of the need to please, perform and perfect.  Saying “no” rather than sure (and being resentful and pissed off later).

If you would like to practice courage today, light a candle to symbolize your commitment to accept the courage to practice 64 Ways of living the authentic you.  The good news is abundance is a natural outcome of your courageousness.  Let the flame represent the beginning of a new season: of reflection, growth, and practicing harmony, authenticity and abundance.

Think About It

What is the most recent act of courage you practiced in your life?

Take Action!

As you reflect on that courageous action write a short paragraph (3-4 sentences) about what it meant to you and why.

Major Do Today:  Find new ways to feel a “little” more courageous.  Be creative. Be inventive. Be outrageous

Major Don’t Today:  Don’t live in someone else’s opinion about you.  Own your own spectacular-ness.  

Over seven decades ago Napoleon Hill wrote a book called Think and Grow Rich. He put forth the idea that you can think yourself to becoming rich. Millions have read his book and become wealthy and abundant. Still millions more have read the book, done nothing to change their thinking or even worse poo poo-ed the ideas as woo woo or silly.

Now, years later, we have an abundance of Neuroscience evidence (easily accessed through a simple Google search) verifying your mind creates your reality. Conclusion –your mind is your greatest asset AND your “key” to success, wealth, abundance, happiness and health.

It only takes an instant to recognize this simple science so why aren’t you utilizing the powerful asset you were born with? Could it be no one has ever taught you?

I am often asked how do you create a mindset of wealth. Simple really. Spend 51% or more time focusing on what you want rather than what you don’t want or don’t have and shazam! It appears like magic.

Sounds simple right? For years, I thought I “understood” this simple concept, only to experience re-runs of the same lackluster life over and over. Each day I simply inserted a new caster of characters.

To truly ignite the “Magic of your Mind”, thinking and intention are only one aspect of the manifestation process. In Think and Grow Rich“ Hill says, “Tell the world what you intend to do, but first show it.” Showing or “Acting as If” ignites the quantum field of possibility.

Sooooo, if you want to become a manifesting machine, I invite you to try this simple technique for the next week. I promise you, shift will begin to happen and you can stop re-running your usual script.

For the next week:

Choose one specific manifestation you would like to see in your life. Perhaps a job promotion, more clients, a trip to another country, new patio furniture, a new home, a relationship. . . .

For the next week, at least 51% of the time, “act as if” you are already experiencing this manifestation.
Here is the secret sauce: Experience the emotions of this situation being manifested. Enjoy every moment of it; give it lots of positive energy at least 51% of the day. Notice I said energy! Forget about positive thinking, it’s time for positive action. Actions are feelings, emotions, behaviors, reactions, conversations, the way you move, speak and connect.

For example, if you were to desire a beautiful new home, imagine yourself swimming in the pool behind your home, entertaining on the spacious patio, friends sharing your company. Imagine what music is playing, who do you connect with, what your conversations during the day sound like, what type of food you are buying, how do you feel when you wake in the morning. Begin to notice every detail of your life and how it aligns with this manifestation.

Throughout your daily activities, pay attention to every decision you make, every thought you think and most importantly, does your behavior comport with your desire. Would a person who already had the experience you desire, speak, act and feel this way. Even the conscious act of asking yourself these questions, creates more of what you want. Speak and act and feel as if you already have the experience in your life. Surround yourself with those you would if the experience was happening right now.

Begin to notice how many hours of the day you are “acting as if” and how many you are “acting as if you don’t have”.

Once you reach 51% of acting as if, shazam, SHIFT HAPPENS!

Let me know about your manifestations!

I found myself writing an intro for a television interview this morning and this is what came out:

The disease that plagues our planet is a cancer called not-enoughness which has created an epidemic of financial lack and limitation.

As I wrote these words, I began to reflect on my own journey of not-enoughness and how 13 years ago I described my financial condition as “Cancer”.   At the time I owed the IRS hundreds of thousands of dollars and to say the fear of that looming over my head truly did feel like a death sentence.    I remember like it was yesterday saying “it would be easier to cure physical cancer than this financial cancer”.

The truth is cancer is simply the uncontrolled growth of abnormal cells.  It reflects a deeper issue which has provided a breeding ground for its uncontrolled growth.  In my case 13 years ago, it was believing I was not enough.  Only through recognizing my value was I able to cure my cancer.

Globally, up until 2008, there was an uncontrolled growth of abnormal currency cells.  The breeding ground allowing the uncontrolled growth was greed, the deeper issue was an uncontrolled belief in “not enoughness”.     Even though it seemed at the time, the entire world had “enough” stuff up until that point,  what was the cost?  Over consumption, debt, excess and the desire to fill our lives with “things” to fill the not-enoughness container.

What is the cost to an addict or alcoholic when you strip away their dependence cold turkey?  In the past five years I have watched a planet go from “financially” hiding their feelings about feeling enough to cold turkey stripping away their addiction to the things that keep this belief hidden.  As the world contracted into a belief that money is the only thing that creates the enoughness, I am constantly amazed at how it has been called “crisis” “meltdown”, “worst since . . .”, “horrific” and more.   It causes me great pause when the press is consistently reminding us that we truly do not have enough and that something needs to be done about it.

Yes something does need to be done.  We must see that our value has nothing to do with the things and everything to do with who we are but who we be.  Then and only then, does wealth come pouring in pressed, down shaken up and overflowing.

What if the real truth is that the sheer volume of money that was swirling about up until 2008 was simply a way for us to cover up and blind ourselves from our belief that we were not enough?     As long as you were able to buy the monolith homes, multiples cars, electronics that numb feelings or travel away from your life regularly, you would not have to look at the not enoughness that was  lingering right below the surface.

As the world has adopted the these mantras:

We don’t have enough to do the things that we want.
We don’t have enough to feel good about our lives.
We don’t have enough to create change.
We don’t have enough to be who we are.

We just don’t have enough, the result is YES.  You are right!

Imagine that this change in the economic climate was simply an opportunity to look deeply into the caverns of your value of enoughness and decide who you are without the distractions.  Instead of calling it wrong or bad that families moved in together, began to eat meals at home, shared a ride or a computer, that therein lies the opportunity to touch the very fabric of your humanity, your love, your kindness, your tolerance, your value.

There is so much conversation around a “return to values”.  Yes we need to return to values, our own value, what makes us who we are, what we bring to the planetary table as our good and gift.

How can you know who you are when your self-worth is contingent upon a physical appendage as large as a car, a boat or a house?   Stripped down naked allows you to get in touch with you and begin to create wealth from that space, not one of mind numbing, intoxicated, unconscious lives.

The word wealth comes from an old English word “weal” which literally translated means happiness, well-being, prosperity.  The condition of happiness or well-being.   How do you demonstrate that in your life today?  Is it still contingent upon a thing, or can you get in touch with that condition of happiness and well-being from inside your inner most beingness?

This financial cancer that is plaguing the planet is caused by inflammation, as is all dis-ease.   The inflammation of the not enoughness belief creates fear, constriction of the heart and leads to more financial cancer.  Opening up to one’s own value is an anti-inflammatory remedy for that cancer.

You can begin today by knowing your true worth and value from the inside out and allow true wealth to press down upon you as a reflection of the truth of who you are.